I have been doing NLP skills sessions for some of my own students as well as people in counselling type roles lately.
It is interesting to see basic mistakes made that are so easy to circumvent with awareness.
The most basic mistake I see people make with one on one NLP facilitation is the lack of positional anchoring. This is an essential skill if you want your work to be clean and effective.
In a nut-shell, when the client is accessing negative associations hold yourself in one posture / location – slightly to the left of the client is best, when they are accessing positive associations hold yourself in a different posture / location – slightly to the right of the client is best here – and have a neutral posture / location for most of the interaction.
This keeps your work ‘psychically’ clean.
Most Practitioners end up with the negative associations confused and washed in with the positive. The one weakens the other.
As you design your interventions – Swish Patterns and the like – you will find them much more effective.
The reason you want to go to the client’s left for the negative and to their right for the positive is because of the Time Line distinctions. As a ‘Rule of Thumb’ you may as well put their negative experiences to the past and their positive accessing to the future. Not essential, just another layer to add in.
As you determine their particular idiosyncratic gestures and posture (vocal tone etc) for their negative and positive associations use these instead. This allows far more elegant precision with your work.
It is amazingly useful, though. to have this positional anchoring in place from the get-go. I often find the most intense negative associations are at the start of a session. It is very useful to have a way of dealing with them immediately.
With these positional anchors it also become incredibly easy to do snap shot collapsing anchors.
More on that at another time.
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